Mothers-in-Law

Discussion in 'General Chit-Chat' started by 28Shooter, Mar 23, 2012.

  1. 28Shooter

    28Shooter Well-Known Member Lifetime Supporting

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    Okay boys and girls, honest answers only, how do you get along with your in-laws? I'll start, been married for 26 years and:

    I loved my father-in-law, we had a lot in common, did a lot together and had a mutual respect for one another. He was called home about 14 years ago and I still miss him.

    My mother-in-law on the other hand, really doesn't seem to care for me at all and does everything she can to get me going. This makes mutual church committee meetings real interesting. I still love her though, she gave me my wife.
     
  2. axxe55

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    my mother in law is a fantastic lady and we get along great. when she tried my smoked turkey the first Thanksgiving my wife and i were together, she has me do one for her every Thanksgiving now! part of the reason she and i get along is we have alot of the same ways of looking at things and one thing i respect about her is she is very outspoken and not afraid to say what she thinks. i knew my mother and father in law before i ever even met my wife as my brother and i were close friends with their son who my brother use to work for. he helped my brother out when he first got into business for himself. i also went to school with my wifes sister.
     

  3. Shooter

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    My MIL is great. So is my FIL, I still call him Mr.____, but it's fine.

    They do a lot for us. They took my Daughter this weekend so my wife and I could go out and do something.

    It had been so long we sat in silence just staring at each other till we figured out what we wanted to do.

    Mexican food feast, bought a bunch of baby stuff, watched movies and talked. Had a great weekend.
     
  4. axxe55

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    that was nice of them. good for you and the wife to have some adult time alone and do some fun things every once in awhile.
     
  5. FOUR4D4

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    My mother in law and father in law where great people.Her family treats as family brother and sister in laws.
     
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  6. Shooter

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    I think sometimes we forget that we used to be a couple before the kid.

    It really does take over your entire life.

    That's a good thing though.
     
  7. axxe55

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    i think every couple that are parents forget this. nothing wrong with being parents, but sometimes even parents need some time every once in a while to just be a couple. keeps everything going smoothly. that's what grandparents are for! besides most grandparents love to spend time with their grandchildren and most grandchildren love the spoiling that only grandparents can do! i know growing up, i enjoyed all the time i spent with mine during the summer. fond memories.:)
     
  8. Shooter

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    I spent a lot of time with my Grandparents growing up. It was some of the happiest memories I have from that period.
     
  9. axxe55

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    Amen to that Austin! i loved going anywhere with my grandfather. we called him Papa, and everyone called me Papa's shadow! my grandfather was always showing my brother and i how to do things and would let us work on things with him. i can remember watching Gunsmoke and the Red Skelton shows with him. those were his favorites.
     
  10. duster066

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    Me too. I adored my grandma and because I was the first she spoiled me like no other grandchild. My grandpa was my first football watching buddy. I probably wouldn't have play the game if not for him, my dad hated it.

    My wife and I went through the separation brought on by children. When we realized how bad it had gotten we scheduled a special weekend get away. It worked wonders, and we did it every few years until the kids grew up enough we could stay connected at home. Now we do it every five years or so just because it's so much fun.
     
  11. Shooter

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    I would sit in the garage with mine and listen to the radio.

    Giving his eulogy was one of the hardest things I ever had to do but was an honor.

    I'm hoping to have it more than every few years but I'll take what I can get!
     
  12. 1894

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    Pretty dang happy where I am today. Whole lotta stars got lined up for my wife and I to meet when we did. Disjointed family trees as it may be , it worked out well for me. :cool:
     
  13. Shooter

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    Glad to hear it!
     
  14. axxe55

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    kinda know what you mean! wish my third wife had been the first, then maybe there wouldn't be two ex-wives around!:eek:
     
  15. Shooter

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    Do you still have contact with them?
     
  16. axxe55

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    my ex-wives? haven't seen my first in almost twenty years and haven't seen my second in over four. my first did royally screw me over and for many years afterwards, i really hated her, but i have moved past that and now just a bad memory. my second ex, well we just grew apart and went our own directions, so we were much more civil about the divorce. not any bad feelings there, we just don't socialize in the same circles anymore.
     
  17. Shooter

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    I can't imagine having any contacts with exes, gf or wives.
     
  18. axxe55

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    i am fortunate as in the regard to ex-wives that i have never had children, so therefor i have no reason to have to interact with them on a regular basis because of children. i pretty much close the book once the relationship is over and move on.
     
  19. Shooter

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    That makes sense.
     
  20. axxe55

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    well, i look at this way, if it's over, it's over. if i happen to run into them somewhere, i am civil, but i ain't inviting them over for BBQ's or dinner! socializing with an ex wife or GF is a sure way to cause problems for you with a current wife or GF when there isn't a need to. as said before, i have no children, so there is no reason for interaction with my ex wives. now i understand when people divorce and they have children together, there will be some form of interaction between them because of the children, that's just something they have to deal with. but, fortunately i don't have that concern.